I thought it was a joke when I read the headline.
“Chinese woman to have surgery to look like Jessica Alba in desperate bid to win back her ex-boyfriend”
This article highlights the social tension of a young woman wanting to exist as her natural self, and wanting to exist as a desirable lover to her boyfriend.
The 22-year-old woman, identified only as Xiaoqing, describes her ex-boyfriend’s obsession with Jessica Alba, saying that his infatuation drove him to hang pictures of Alba on the walls of his home (not only his bedroom), to buy her a blonde wig and demand that she never take it off, and to command her to wear her makeup like Alba–even while sleeping.
Her tension reared its ugly head one day when she was mocked in public for trying to look like someone who she was clearly not–this resulted in a thrash-about of public wig removing, false-eyelash ripping and makeup wiping. Xiaoqing had had enough.
Unfortunately, trying to be her natural self was not good enough for her boyfriend, who promptly ended their relationship.
Xiaoqing realized that she couldn’t be without her man, and so she went public about her plans to have reconstructive facial surgery in order to win him back. She went public with this news in hopes to raise money for her operation.
‘I’m not only doing it for my ex-boyfriend but for myself,’ she said. ‘I am a psychologically weak person. I want to do something to challenge myself and build a strong personality through it.’
It is for this reason why more ad campaigns should exist which work to combat the bombardment of the beauty-standard–worldwide. This poor young woman, who is perfectly fine the way she is, has become psychologically weak due to the constant competing notions of the true self and the public self.
Her words also reflect the belief that one must be outwardly beautiful to be inwardly beautiful–through this face-changing operation, she will “build a strong personality through it”.
(If it’s any consolation, maybe Xiaoqing has a one-up on Alba–since she can look photoshopped ALL the time now.)
A comment on the article’s comment thread put it shortly but pretty damned accurately:
“She needs therapy–not surgery.”
I think the same goes for a lot more people than we think.
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